'Learning about attachment styles made me realise I wasn't unlucky in love' (By Lizzie Cernik)

Happy Sunday. Thanks for bearing with me during this little hiatus. I’m excited to be back to my normal day again. I also want to welcome all the new subscribers who joined this week thanks to a certain Guardian article. I’m so glad you’re all here.

For those who didn’t see the article this week. it was about women who are involuntarily celibate. As well as delving into the incel and femcel movements, the article looked at the way misogyny impacts dating, sex lives and relationships. Today, the author of that article Lizzie Cernik has written a piece about her own story of being long-term single, which inspired her to write it. She also wanted to explore how attachment styles have played a part in her relationship history.

Although attachment style theory is mainly focused on romantic relationships, I’ve been thinking lately about how it also plays out in friendships (mainly thanks to a conversation with Emma Winterschladen who loves talking about attachment styles!) so I might do a n…