The Single Supplement

The Single Supplement

Share this post

The Single Supplement
The Single Supplement
"I don’t want to be the “missing piece” of someone else’s puzzle"

"I don’t want to be the “missing piece” of someone else’s puzzle"

Subscriber's newsletter

Nicola Slawson
Sep 06, 2020
∙ Paid
4

Share this post

The Single Supplement
The Single Supplement
"I don’t want to be the “missing piece” of someone else’s puzzle"
Share

The other day, I had a really interesting conversation with Franki Cookney. She’s a journalist and writes her own newsletter called The Overthinker’s Guide To Sex, which is really good. She wanted to interview me to get my thoughts about a theory she had about whether the problem in relationships is that people often try and get absolutely everything from the person they are in love with.

They want intimacy, romance, sex and they also want a best friend, a life partner, emotional support (“he’s my rock”), validation, approval and deep and meaningful conversations, someone to have fun with (“live, laugh, love!”) and everything else in between. Franki argued in her newsletter this week that for those looking for a partner, maybe they should consider trying to get their needs met by a variety of different people instead of putting all their eggs in one basket. She believes that doing this herself has made her own marriage a happier one.

As Franki says: “Not only does this realisation make…

Keep reading with a 7-day free trial

Subscribe to The Single Supplement to keep reading this post and get 7 days of free access to the full post archives.

Already a paid subscriber? Sign in
© 2025 Nicola Slawson
Privacy ∙ Terms ∙ Collection notice
Start writingGet the app
Substack is the home for great culture

Share